Episode 37

Post Traumatic Love Decisions

This episode came off the backend of a client intensive I did on the day of this recording. In an intensive we create a massive breakthrough where I show you what's been leading your life and where your decisions are coming from that cause love and revenue problems. Tune in to hear how this client's mind was blown and why at this very time in his life may have been the most important time in his life to do this work.

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Welcome to the Relationship Alchemy

Podcast, where you come to turn your shit

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into gold and your gold into platinum.

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I'm your host, Jody, master relationship,

alchemist and architect for transformation

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here to empower you to hire truths,

deeper wisdom and sovereign love.

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This podcast is where your legacy

of love begins to materialize,

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and your hidden pains begin to

alchemize into pure potential power.

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Hey, hey, welcome back.

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I want to talk to you guys today about

an intensive that I had with a client.

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I know it sounds intense because it is.

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In like 90 minutes, I throw things at you.

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It's like a freaking fire hose.

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I throw things at you.

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I, it's basically like

taking your head off.

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Shaking it up, putting it back on right.

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That's what it's like.

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No, really.

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It, it is what it's like, but

it sounds painful and it's not.

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It's so freaking liberating because what

happens in this 90 minutes is you've

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been carrying around heavy bags of

burden since you were in kindergarten.

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And some of you, even before

that, even before that.

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And what it's doing to you is

it has you making decisions.

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around love and relationships

and everywhere because love and

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relationships, everything goes

back to love and relationships.

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So when I did this intensive today,

this is a man who owns his own business,

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who has been in business for six years.

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but who is showing up in that business

in little tiny ways that are actually

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causing him to sabotage his own business.

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And the reason why that is

going on is because of what we

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found in his love blueprint.

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And this is what we do in an intensive.

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I go in and examine your love blueprint.

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What that means is I'm looking at

your, your childhood experiences.

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But before that, I'm looking at

your, the energy that is going on

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right now in your current situation,

in your current circumstances.

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I'm just saying circumstances

and situation at the same time.

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In your current reality,

what is happening there?

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So I'm looking at those energetics.

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I'm looking at those patterns and I'm

able to retrace them back into your

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childhood at a very specific age because

we go through these stages in childhood

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where if we did not fully develop these

stages, we're showing up In our life,

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making decisions based in that delay

or based in that missing piece that is

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back there in childhood, and the crazy

thing that happens is when we uncover

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this hidden part of yourself, when we

uncover the reason why you're making

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these decisions, we also uncover the

reason why you're making these decisions.

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What your actual creative gifts, your

God given freaking gifts are, are there.

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Where they are is hidden

behind this trauma.

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And it is trauma.

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It's trauma.

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So what I call it is PTLD.

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You've heard of PTSD, okay?

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I don't take you down that path.

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I could take you down that

path, but we don't need to.

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What I, where I take you

is in an empowered path.

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It's actually looking at this past and

looking at your childhood and these places

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that you've hidden subconsciously in your

mind, which is more than just your brain.

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It is the entire mind.

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It is your Your, your being, it is

your mind, it is your heart, it is

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your central nervous system, it is

your DNA, all of this is hidden, are

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hidden parts of you, that's your mind.

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And you're making decisions based in that.

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So PTLD, post traumatic love decisions.

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See, most people think they're

making rational logical decisions.

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They're making conscious decisions, but

they're not making conscious decisions.

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They're not making actual rational

logical decisions because they're

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making decisions from their childhood

wounds, post traumatic love decisions.

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95%, up to 95 percent of the decisions

that you make are being made from

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these hidden wounds inside of you.

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These places and spaces all tucked

away inside of your organs, inside

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of your tissues, inside of your

body, inside of your soul, that

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are causing you to make decisions.

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decisions that aren't leading you to

the life and the love experience that

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you truly came to live in integrity.

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And so when we look at it from a deeper

perspective, we're looking at it, and

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we're, we're seeing that we don't actually

have free will, quote unquote, free

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will, because if you're not actually

free, if you don't understand what your

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subconscious, what your hidden thoughts

are, and if you don't bring those to

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awareness, then you're not actually free.

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You're making decisions, and you think

you're making decisions based in logic,

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but they're really the same freaking

decisions, and you keep repeating the

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same thing over and over and over again.

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Either walking in circles, going, I know

I need to do this, I know I shouldn't

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do this, but why am I doing this?

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Why can't I do this?

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Why do I know what to do and

I'm not being able to do it?

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Or you're beating your head against

the wall trying to change, trying to

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fix, trying to make someone be the

human that you see them, you see the

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greatness in them, but they don't want to.

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They don't want to see the

greatness in themselves.

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Why?

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Because their own childhood wounds.

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And then what happens in these

relationships where you're beating

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your head against the wall because you

want them to show up differently is.

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You're playing a game that is you being

the little girl or the little boy and them

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being the little boy or the little girl.

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And depending on the dynamics of what's

going on, you are trying to still fix,

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change, help your parent lead their life.

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Because that is what happens.

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The other person begins to

play the role of the parent

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who you didn't get love from.

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And it really goes back to your mother,

but also there are father wounds, but

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it really goes back to your mother

because your mother was your first love.

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And for my, my client today,

his mother actually left him

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when he was five years old.

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And so we're able to go back into

that five year old and really see how

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this five year old is making decisions

today and still running his life today.

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When I say, when I tell you I blew

his freaking mind, I blew his freaking

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mind, because that's what I do.

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That's what I do for a living.

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I blow your freaking mind.

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When you don't understand the full

picture, the full dynamics, you You just

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continue to make the same decisions.

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And if you do have a relationship and

you finally are getting the love that

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you desire and you know, you deserve

three feet from gold, or right after

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you hit gold, you will sabotage.

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You will be so afraid of that love because

you don't have the capacity to hold that

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amount of success and that amount of love.

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And so it causes you to then go back to

your childhood and retrace trying to find

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those pieces that you missed in childhood.

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Trying to find those places and spaces

that you're missing that is a A,

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I'm trying to think of the computer

word, has defragged your system.

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We need to reprogram your

entire operating system.

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And that's what we do in the 90

minutes that we're in this intensive.

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He walked out of here and I'm going

to tell you it was the perfect timing.

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Perfect timing because he's about to

propose to his long term girlfriend.

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I'm going to make sure

that she does not hear this

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because then I'll ruin the big surprise.

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But he is proposing to her next week and

I could not be more freaking thrilled

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for this man because I know 100 percent

that he's starting from sovereignty.

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He's starting from the kind of

man that he truly desires to be.

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He sees it clearly.

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Now, of course, he's going, it's going

to take time and effort and devotion

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and dedication to re pattern that, to

actually create new muscles because

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the muscles, muscle has memory, and

the muscles that he has are muscles

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that have been the way his parents led.

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And the way his parents led

is his mother, his own mother.

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His own mother left him

when he was five years old.

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Now what I expressed to him and what

I will express to you is she did not

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leave him when he was five years old.

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Physically, yes she did.

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But where she first left him

was before he was even born.

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Why?

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Because she could not hold the capacity

of that love and light that came in.

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She could not hold that capacity.

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Why couldn't she hold that capacity?

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Because she too is carrying wounds

from her childhood that she has

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not unpacked and alchemized.

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And the burden gets passed down

and passed down and passed down.

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Now on his father's side, his

father remarried seven times.

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Seven times.

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Doing the same thing over and over.

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And over and over again, never waking

up to the fact that all these different

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wives and all these different times

was not the freaking wife that was

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the whole problem, because the common

thread, the common denominator is

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you, sir, you looking back at you.

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That's the common denominator.

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And, and what happens, you guys, is

over a period of time, the more you,

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the more you repeat the past, and the

more you don't allow yourself to see

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it, the more memory loss you have.

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Literal freaking brain

damage and memory loss.

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That's how that's energetically created.

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Because over a period of time,

you have hidden, packed away, all

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of these Things that are causing

you to not be in integrity, to

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not tell the truth, essentially.

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The truth will set you free.

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But unless you're willing to

go into your subconscious mind

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and get that freaking file.

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ManilaFile, that old freaking ManilaFile

out of your subconscious mind, which I

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see as a rickety old filing cabinet until

we reprogram it and upgrade the system.

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Heh heh.

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It is a rickety old filing

cabinet until we do that.

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Because you don't want to give

up your subconscious mind.

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Your subconscious mind is

a really beautiful thing.

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It's a really beautiful thing.

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This is how we make decisions.

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This is how we love.

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Everything is stored there.

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It's just A, a system that is broken.

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It's an old ass system.

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An old ass system of manila envelopes in

a rickety old rusted out filing cabinet.

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But not everybody is willing to go there.

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But I'm gonna tell you what,

if you're listening to me, it's

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because you're supposed to.

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It's because you are the one here

to break generational patterns.

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To create new generational patterns.

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And that is exactly what this man

who sat across from me is here to do.

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Now, a part of him knew that,

but I took him to places that

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he has never been before.

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I took him to places that

he has never seen before.

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He cannot unlearn what I taught him

today, however, he has to now apply it.

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And in an intensive, I am showing

you exactly what is stopping you and

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causing you to make the same mistakes.

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And to do the same things over and over

again in your own self righteousness.

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That's what it is.

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Unless you're, unless you're willing to

look at it and pay for what needs to be

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paid for and know the lessons and become

aware, then you're just gonna repeat it.

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And I hate to break it to you.

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I hate to break it to you.

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But you're just gonna repeat it?

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In this lifetime, in the next

lifetime, in the next lifetime after

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that, cause that's how it works.

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That is how it works.

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So

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in an intensive, you're, you're

becoming aware of what stops you.

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You're having a breakthrough.

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The next step is the work that it

takes over a period of time with either

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relationship alchemy, the, the academy.

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Or in private work.

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And that's going to take a minimum

of three months for you to build that

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new muscle, for you to turn on that

new DNA and turn off the old ass DNA

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and to regulate your nervous system

and to prepare your body, your mind,

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your soul to this new way of living.

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It's like when you make a New

Year's resolution and you decide

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you're going to work out, but.

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You go there for a week and you're

like, I haven't seen any results yet.

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Okay, I'm going to quit.

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No, this is devotion.

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Absolute devotion.

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The truth of the matter is,

is that no one, no one is a

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better partner to you than you.

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So if you don't know yourself,

then you don't know anybody.

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If you're unable to be intimate with

yourself, into me I allow myself to see.

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If you don't allow yourself to be intimate

with yourself, if you don't allow yourself

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to be vulnerable with yourself, you

can't expect anyone else to as well.

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You're holding a wall

between you and actual love.

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The only guaranteed life partner is

you for the rest of your time here.

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It's just you.

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It's just you.

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And what happened today in

the intensive is I brought him

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back into the relationship that

he has with himself in unity.

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We looked for all the leaks.

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All the openings, all the places where

he wasn't in integrity with the man that

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he's choosing to be, the character and the

role that he's choosing to play in this

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lifetime because that muscle is so strong.

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It is insidious.

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And the deeper aspect of it, the deeper

part of it is that when you are making

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decisions from your little girl or

little boy self, you're actually Still

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allowing your parents to lead you.

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I don't care how the freaking old you are.

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You're still allowing

your parents to lead you.

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And you will never lead yourself any

further than their capacity to lead

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themselves and to love themselves

because of unconditional love that you

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have deep, deep, deep in your heart.

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For them and because it's attached to

your survival mechanism, because most

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likely somewhere back there you had to

do and had to be these things so that

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you would stay So, still attached to

them, because if you weren't attached

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to them, and if you didn't get any kind

of love from them, then you would die.

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Because they were the people that fed you.

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And if you don't understand these

dynamics, And you get married trying

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to save someone or seeing the, the

victim in them and, and believing that

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you can fix them, you can save them,

you can make them be their greater

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self, you have already lost on the buy.

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This is what we say in

real estate investing.

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You've already lost on the buy.

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You're trying to buy

something that isn't viable.

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You're trying to buy something

that can absolutely never win.

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You will never get a return on investment.

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You'll get a return.

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All right.

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Um, more shit, but you won't get

a return on the investment that

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you've been hustling because

most likely you're the savior.

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You're the people pleaser.

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You're the one.

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I want you to see though.

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I want you to see.

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I want you to see this.

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The savior looks like they're

being the good person.

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They look like, you know, it's all done

because you don't feel that you're worthy

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enough of having a sovereign relationship.

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You only feel that you're good enough.

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And that you didn't fail

if you saved your mother.

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And that's what the other partner plays.

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And if that's not the case,

then you turn on your mother.

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You try to mother him because

he's being the little boy.

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He's the little toddler

or the kindergartner.

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And you have to become the mother.

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This is a polarity issue.

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This is a consciousness issue.

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This is a post traumatic

love decision issue.

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And it's super simple to fix.

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But the work to build

the muscle is not easy.

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Jodie Rodenbaugh is a Soul Liberator & Soulmate Matchmaker here to guide powerful men, women, & couples and in turn their families & into their highest relationship purpose & greatest love story their souls have ever told in all the history of ever.

Your past doesn’t define you but there is deep wisdom & life defining treasures hidden back in your earliest years and many times before you were born that are effecting your success because there is no real success without relationship success.

Gone are the days of superficial love & surface relationships. You were born to for so much more! You were born to create & allow yourself to co-create literal magic beyond your own human understanding. Soulmate kind of love requires a deep awareness of self & an unwavering connection to the most high.

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